Life with a toddler is busy. I know my Mom friends are well aware of this, but I constantly have to remind myself to not be so anxious. Anxious about the house not being perfectly clean or the laundry not being done. I try not to feel bad about not keeping up with Jackson’s baby book or writing him a letter every month. I do know that we have a great family life, despite the laundry in the hamper and dishes piled in the sink. Our son is well-adjusted and I am proud of his personality and sweet nature, both of which is more important than a clean house. I’m thankful for this blog because I can look back and see what was happening with Jackson for the past year, so I guess you could say this is the “baby book” of 2011.
My all-time favorite blogger, Kelle Hampton, must be in the same funk I am because she wrote a post today “The State of my House” that made me feel much better about my role as a mother & homemaker.
I read a great poem the other day that I printed out to put on the fridge as a reminder to Greg & myself:
If I had my child to raise again:
If I had my child to raise over again
I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I’d finger paint more and point fingers less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I’d take my eyes off my watch,
and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.
I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields
and gaze at more stars.
I’d do more hugging and less tugging.
I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I would be firm less often
and affirm much more.
I’d model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
Diane Looman “Full esteem ahead”