I’ve sat here for an hour now trying to think of a way to express how much my mom means to me. I’ve written paragraphs and then deleted them because they’re just not good enough to express my love for her. Sometimes I’m a better list-maker than a writer, probably because of all those extra study skills workshops my mom made me attend in school (thanks, by the way).
Reasons why my mom is awesome:
- In elementary school, she always told me to blame her when I wanted to get out of something; “My mom won’t let me do that.” She still tries to use that one but I still haven’t convinced her that doesn’t work at 32-years-old.
- She worked full-time and then drove me from school to the barn to horse shows to everything else my schedule had packed in, without complaint. My kids are only 1 & 3 and I already feel like a chauffeur so I can’t imagine how she felt. Thanks mom.
- When my parents split in a very nasty divorce, she never once spoke badly about my dad (who quite frankly deserved any negative words). I’m grateful that she never put me in the middle or let me feel any blame for their split. I now realize that rarely happens with divorce and I’m thankful she took the high road.
- She knew I didn’t mean all the ugly things I said to her when I was 14-years-old (or all of high school).
- She always held me accountable and let me learn things the hard way. I’m happy she let me have the ugliest projects in all of elementary school. While some kid’s parents did their project for them and looked like they were pulled straight off Pinterest (way before Pinterest/the internet existed), my project was the one with torn edges because I could never find the damn scissors. I’m so thankful for this life lesson because I figured out how to do stuff on my own. Too bad it doesn’t work in reverse when she asks me “how to do x, y & z on her computer.” Just kidding, mom, I will always be your personal tech support.
- When I decided to take my dream job and move to Rhode Island, she never once made me feel guilty for leaving her. I know that must have been hard, especially when I fell in love and started a family 1200 miles away. Thanks to Steve Jobs & FaceTime, my kids “see” their grandma every night.
- She flew up to be by my side for both of my kids’ births. When I was getting prepped for an emergency c-section with Jackson’s birth, seeing her face look back at me with a calm confidence set me at ease. I knew everything was going to be ok with her and my husband by my side.
- She put her life on hold for one month after each baby was born and stayed with us. She helped me change diapers, give first baths and helped me heal from my c-sections. When it was time for her to leave after Jackson was born, I cried to her and told her I couldn’t do it alone. She hugged me and told me that I could and would.
I could make this list go on forever but I won’t. My kids will be waking up in a handful of hours and I can’t wait to tear open the little brown bags Jackson made at his preschool play group. Mom, I want you to know that you will always be my best friend. Thank you for everything you have done. I’d also like to thank my husband’s mom for being the best mother-in-law, I couldn’t have asked for a better one. I love you both!
I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
“Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did – that everything involving our children was painful in some way. The emotions, whether they were joy, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that in the end they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain. The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that – a parent’s heart bared, beating forever outside its chest.”
– Debra Ginsberg