When I moved to Rhode Island five years ago, I got off the plane with two suitcases and an exciting new job. That’s all I had. No friends or family in Rhode Island whatsoever. I had to catch a cab to my new apartment and wait for my company car to be delivered. I was 24 years old and had made the life-changing decision to move 1,500 miles away to pursue a career with the company I had always wanted to work for. I remember the plane landing and looking out at the mid-January landscape and seeing nothing but snow and brown trees. I wondered to myself briefly, had I made the right decision? I had left the blue ocean and palm trees for blizzards?
Five years later, I know I have. I met my husband my second month living up North and four years later we had our son, Jackson. I’ve established a wonderful group of girlfriends in Rhode Island, more specifically a few different groups of them. My first friends were the friends of my husband’s wives. The next group was the lovely women I met playing tennis. These friends are mostly my mom’s age, but I firmly believe friendship is blind to age. My most recent group of friends are my mommy friends. Mommy friends are subdivided into my IRL (in real life) friends and my online/Twitter friends. I cherish both groups and am thankful for them every day when I question my parenting abilities and they can quickly reassure me that what I am feeling is completely normal.
Tonight, two of my IRL mommy friends and I met for a quick dinner then to see the movie, Babies. Have you seen Babies? If not, you need to. It was a sweet documentary of four babies from different ends of the Earth. A common thread between all the babies was the love you could see between the mother and baby. It made my heart swell and I couldn’t get home soon enough to squeeze my sweet Jackson. On a side note, it also made me realize Jackson does not need every toy in the world– babies can entertain themselves, given the opportunity!
Something else I loved from the movie was that the baby from Opuwo, Namibia had a mom that was always with a girlfriend. It could have been a sister or Aunt, but it was a girlfriend that was always there supporting the mom & her baby. I smiled to myself whenever they showed the mommy friends, because that type of friendship translates into any language. I know that even though I am a three hour flight from my family, I’m a phone call or tweet away from a mommy friend any time of day.
To my mommy blogger/Twitter friends, thank you for your friendship & support! I am so lucky to know you 🙂